Entry #3

Currently I am not really "in" a conflict but being married I am in an ongoing conflict. :) My husband and I have 1 thing that we are always having an issue with... his ex wife.... I have issues with his child support (its to much and he won't fight it) I have issues with him never talking to me about her (she got married, divorced and re-married and I found out from his daughter after the fact) and I have issues with her because she is a heinous, evil, bitch and he never stands up to her when she is telling their daughter horrible things about me (I'm a home wrecker, I'm the reason she doesn't have a daddy anymore, oh and I'm a whore, AWESOME!) Anyways, my husband is the classic avoider in arguments, he would just as soon never even talk about it... whatever "it" is. I on the other hand have to argue, its in my blood, i find myself just looking for things to say to him to get him to tell me about whats going on with his ex wife and his daughter with out saying it directly. I know it will always bring up a fight and I can't help it, i just have to do it.. I'm a very competitive person by nature and always must win. I can see why my husband avoids arguments with me or just walks away from them and "lets" me win. In the future when i really do want to know about his ex wife and daughter, I'll just ask (preferably after a few drinks) and I'll ask nicely and not try and start a fight. The few times I have actually taken the time to start a conversation with my husband about them and then gradually asked questions instead of bombarding him with a crazy off the wall question out of the blue it works much better.